Lucy Jones: Matrescence

 Hi everyone

I slowly read and thought about Lucy Jones' book Matrescence on my e-reader and I have some thoughts to share.

"A radical new examination of the transition into motherhood and how it affects the mind, brain and body.
During pregnancy, childbirth, and early motherhood, women undergo a far-reaching physiological, psychological and social metamorphosis. Other than during adolescence, there is no other time in a human's life with such dramatic change, yet science, medicine, and philosophy have neglected this life-altering transition. Its seismic effects go largely unrepresented across literature and the arts. Speaking about motherhood as anything other than a pastel-hued dream remains, for the most part, taboo.
In this ground-breaking, deeply personal investigation, acclaimed journalist and author Lucy Jones brings to light the emerging concept of 'matrescence'. Drawing on new research across various fields—neuroscience and evolutionary biology; psychoanalysis and existential therapy; sociology, economics and ecology—Jones shows how the changes in the maternal mind, brain, and body are far more profound, wild, and enduring than we have been led to believe. She reveals the dangerous consequences of our neglect of the maternal experience, and interrogates the patriarchal and capitalist systems that have created the untenable situation mothers face today.
Here is an urgent examination of the modern institution of motherhood that seeks to unshackle all parents from oppressive social norms. As it deepens our understanding of matrescence, it raises vital questions about motherhood and femininity; interdependence and individual identity; and our relationships with each other and the world."

First of all, given my background (a 7-year-old daughter, a 3-year-old daughter, a bachelor’s degree in Midwifery, a master’s in Health Sciences, and a career shift to accountancy) I approached this book with a mix of professional curiosity and personal experience. I’ve been through childbirth twice, witnessed it up close a hundred times, and met countless pregnant women, so I hoped for new insights or knowledge. Unfortunately, I didn’t learn anything new in terms of facts, scientific research, or hypotheses. That was a bit disappointing.

That said, Matrescence is a good personal story of growth, searching for answers, and listening to others. Lucy Jones shares her own journey through the chaos and transformation of motherhood, and her honesty and vulnerability make the book relatable and engaging. However, I found her perspective a bit too negative. While it’s absolutely vital to address the pressures and expectations of matrescence, I feel like there’s more to the story than what she presents.
Motherhood isn’t just struggle, it’s also joy, connection, and community. Jones doesn’t mention the support systems that many mothers do have access to, like neighbors, friends, or groups that can provide help and solidarity. She focuses heavily on the challenges, which are very real and important, but I wish she had balanced it with some of the beautiful, uplifting moments that are also part of matrescence.

Matrescence is a valuable contribution to the conversation about motherhood, and it highlights the urgent need to recognize and support the profound changes women go through. But for me, it felt incomplete. It’s not a book of answers, but it does spark important questions, and for that, I appreciate it.

Have you read Matrescence? Did you connect with Lucy Jones’ perspective, or did you feel the same way I did? I’d love to hear your thoughts!

Happy reading!
Helena